All About Sex

Sex tax, Germany

We’ve all heard the snappy, hard-hitting phrase “sex sells”. It would seem that the officials in the German city of Bonn have taken this phrase to a whole new level. They have installed a meter in the city to tax their 200 prostitutes. The fee is six Euros and is expected to earn 200,000 Euros per year. You even get a receipt.

The land of the fertile, Russia

Although in a recent survey the Russians were reported as being the least happy with their sex lives (along with the Fins), one woman in Russia holds the world record for having birthed the most children. This fertile lady gave birth 69 times, having 16 pairs of twins, seven sets of triplets, and four sets of quadruplets. Where did she find the time?

Sex toys banned, America

In a global survey Jennifer Lopez won the crown of being the world’s sexiest woman. Halle Berry and Britney Spears were joint third. Despite producing three of the most beautiful women in the world, parts of America seems decidedly prudish. For example, the state of Alabama has banned the sale of any items that are intended to give sexual stimulation.

Body sushi, Japan

If your two favourite things are eating and sex, then body sushi is for you. This Japanese tradition uses the naked body as a serving plate. The models are typically female. They are trained to lie still for hours, whilst food is eaten from their bodies. Sometimes the women will be painted or decorated too. The idea is based around the belief that sushi should delight.

Who has the most sex, global

According to a recent survey, Americans appear to have the most sex at 132 times a year. The Russian’s come a close second, with the average Russian having sex 122 times a year. In third place is the French at 121 and in fourth position is the Greeks at 115. However, the three countries with the lowest sexual frequency were Japan, Malaysia and China.

Sexual energy, China
Taoism is an ancient tradition that is steeped in Chinese customs and beliefs. Taoist’s believe sexual energy is life-enhancing and so they try to retain it. For males, one way to retain sexual energy is to prevent ejaculation. Some Taoist’s also encourage men to have many sexual partners; in order to access the beneficial energy released by women during sex.

Biggest orgy, Japan

On the 15th of March an annual fertility festival is held in Japan, where the penis is celebrated and revered. With the Japanese being such public fans of the penis, it is no shock that it is they who hold the world record for having the biggest orgy ever. 250 Japanese men and 250 Japanese women had sex in a warehouse at the same time. They’ve even released a DVD.

Expert Dr Louann Brizendine has dived inside a man's mind and confirmed what most women long suspected: men are obsessed with sex, hide their emotions, and cheat. According to Brizendine, testosterone causes the 'man trance', where blokes have to stare at ****s, reports The Daily Star. She says: "The best advice I have for women is make peace with the male brain. Let men be men."

Some of the other findings in the expert's new book Male Brain: A Breakthrough Understanding Of How Men And Boys Think are:

1. Men really are sex-crazed: The brain's part inked to sexual pursuit is two-and-a-half times larger in males than females.


2. They're programmed to perv: The testosterone drives what Louann calls the 'man trance' -- a glazed-eye stare at breasts. She says: "I wish I could say that men can stop themselves from entering this trance. But the truth is, they can't."

3. Men want more partners: According to the book, men want an average of 14 sexual partners in their lifetime. Women want one or two. Louann says: "It's postcoital narcolepsy. During orgasm, males release a huge amount of oxytocin in their brains, and it is very sedating. It's not that he doesn't love you."

4. Men lie more about sex: Biologically speaking, men are more comfortable lying to the opposite sex.

5. Foreplay round the clock: In case of women, foreplay is everything that happens in the 24 hours before intercourse. For men it's what happens three minutes before entry Louann says: "The male brain's initial emotional reaction can be stronger than the female. But within 2.5 seconds his face changes to hide the emotion, or even reverse it." The expert doesn't reckon her book justifies bad behaviour. She says: "This is not giving men an excuse to rape and pillage. But men do have a right to give voice to their biological predisposition and have it come in to the dialogue."

A psychological disorder?
Psychiatrists are examining what is commonly referred to as sex addiction, a controversial and often misunderstood condition that has most recently garnered news media attention because of the travails of golfer Tiger Woods. Sex addiction is not recognised by any official diagnosis in the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), considered the definitive word on psychological disorders, reports the Courier Mail.



Hypersexual disorder
However, the term 'hypersexual disorder' is being proposed for the fifth edition of DSM, due out in 2012. The proposal is being put forward by Dr Martin Kafka, a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, in the US, who says the disorder has been neglected for years. He says it causes everything from marital dysfunction and divorce to increased risk of unintended pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.



The symptoms
To be diagnosed with the disorder a patient would have to meet four of the following five criteria: 1) Spending a ‘great deal of time’ consumed by sexual fantasies and urges. 2) Using sexual behaviour to deal with stressful life events (or anxiety, depression, boredom or irritability). 3) Disregarding the "physical and emotional harm" to those involved. 4) Patients must have tried but failed to curb the behaviour. 5) Patients must have suffered distress and harm to their everyday life.



Questions remain...
However, the controversial proposal has critics worrying that the criteria are too vague, and the chances for misdiagnosis and bogus pharmaceutical treatment are too great. Dr Paul Fedoroff, director of the Sexual Behaviours Clinic at the Royal Ottawa Mental Health Centre, is a critic of Kafka's hypersexuality criteria. He questions whether sex in response to stress is unhealthy, and what is meant by ‘a great deal of time’ consumed by sexual fantasies.



The debate continues
But Dr Dan Zucker, of the University of Toronto, who heads a working group dealing with the next edition of DSM, expects ‘hypersexuality disorder’ to be listed. He admits the proposal is controversial but says the issue is about where to draw the line on what is normal, and what is not.

If you get the feeling that she’ll be receptive to taking a darker turn in your sex life together, take the first step by revealing some of your secret fantasies. Dole out a little at a time and see how she reacts. Hopefully, she’ll share some of her inner thoughts in return; when she does, make sure you show plenty of enthusiasm for her ideas if you want to get her to have dirty sex. An important thing to keep in mind when having this sharing session is to keep it in the realm of fantasy. Don’t start telling her about dirty sex you’ve had in the past with other women or your whole plot will come to a screeching halt.

Approach the dirty experimentation like it’s new for both of you. Think of something you’ve never tried before and suggest that you try it together. If she knows you’re starting out on a level playing field, she’ll be more likely to let her inhibitions go and get wild with you. If you want to get her to have dirty sex with you and you act like you’re an expert in the area, chances are she’s going to freeze up on you instead of enjoying herself.

So you’re both open to the idea of getting dirtier in bed together. Now, how do you get started? Talking about it is a lot easier than actually introducing the nastiness into your sex life. A sex game might be just the thing to help you get started. Visit a sex shop and check out the card and board games they have for sale. These are usually aimed at couples that want to add some excitement to their love life and they should give you some ideas. Or, use your imagination and make up your own game together at home. The idea is to get both of you to open up and start trying things out. If all else fails, you can always fall back on the old standard of Truth or Dare.

Get each other in the mood by watching porn stars get it on or by reading some stimulating erotic fiction. Even if she’s not normally into watching porn, when you’re trying to get dirty with each other, she may be open to incorporating a video or two. Erotic writing of a less-than-professional caliber can be found all over the internet, but there are also quality sexy stories available from people with actual skill. Take a trip to the bookstore together and pick out something that looks promising.

You are probably going to have to be the one to make the first move if you want to get a little nastier in the bedroom. Even if you’ve piqued her interest, she’s still not likely to start things off herself. Start talking dirty, set the mood and hopefully she’ll follow your lead.

Medomalacuphobia, on the other hand, is the fear of losing an *****ion. Granted, plenty of men feel nervous about going limp, but only those whose lives are crippled by the phobia are diagnosed with the actual anxiety disorder. Male Take: When He Can't Get An *****ion

Gymnophobia is the irrational fear of nudity. Again, don't confuse this with body-consciousness or excessive modesty. Gymnophobiacs actively fear being seen naked, seeing someone else naked, or both. Sexual Anorexia: The Opposite Of Sex Addiction?

Menophobia is the fear of menstruation. We won't lie, the ordeal is a little scary when you really think about it.

Anuptaphobia is the fear of staying single.

Heterophobia, also called sexophobia, is fear of the opposite sex. We think this would be even harder to cope with than the *****ion phobia.

Erotophobia, which is supposedly the most common form of sexual phobia, is the fear of all things sex, be it sexual love, sexual questions, or sexual knoweldge.

Parthenophobia is the irrational fear of virgins and young females.

Tocophobia is the fear of pregnancy and childbirth.

Oneirogmophobia is the fear of wet dreams.

CASES of syphilis have increased four-fold in Britain's Facebook capital as users meet up for unprotected sex, it was revealed yesterday.

Figures released last month showed that people in Sunderland, Durham and Teesside were 25 per cent more likely to log on regularly.

And an NHS trust chief said Facebook and similar sites were to blame for a shocking rise in cases of potentially-lethal syphilis in the region.

Professor Peter Kelly, director of Public Health for NHS Tees, said: "There has been a four-fold increase in the number of syphilis cases detected, with more young women being affected."

He said staff had found a link to social networking sites among those infected.

Prof Kelly said: "I don't get the names of people affected, just figures. And I saw that several of the people had met sexual partners through these sites.

"Social networking sites are making it easier for people to meet up for casual sex. There is a rise in syphilis because people are having more sexual partners than 20 years ago and often do not use condoms."

Syphilis cases in Britain fell due to the widespread use of condoms in the 1980s and '90s. It can cause serious heart, respiratory tract and central nervous system damage. But Health Protection Agency figures revealed there were 4,000 cases nationwide last year.



The highest rates are in women aged 20 to 24 and men aged 25 to 34.

In Teesside there were 30 cases last year - but the true figure is likely to be higher.

An official statement said: "NHS Tees is warning people about the dangers of syphilis following a rise in cases of the devastating disease."

Prof Kelly added: "There is a possibility that there is a pool of people who have been infected and that these cases are linked. We don't know where the outbreak originated but it is on the rise."

Studies have shown that adults are more likely to indulge in risky sexual behaviour with partners they meet on the internet.

A spokesperson for Facebook said "The assertions made in reports that Facebook is responsible for the transmission of syphilis are ridiculous. As Facebook's more than 400 million users know, our Web site is not a place to meet people for casual sex - it's a place for friends, family and co-workers to connect and share."

Want to know what women really think about sex? How kinky they’re willing to get? What’s most likely to get them off? How long they want you to last? We’re here to help.

How many times a day do you think about sex?
A) I don’t think about sex every day. - 4.2%
B) 1 - 4.4%
C) 2–5 - 38.2%
D) 6–10 - 26.8%
E) 11–20 - 15.4%
F) 21–30 - 6.9%
G) 30+ - 4.0%

How often do you view porn?
A) Never - 29.0%
B) Once or twice per month - 40.2%
C) About once per week - 15.3%
D) Several times per week - 12.3%
E) Daily - 1.8%
F) Multiple times per day - 1.4%
MEN SAID: D - (40.4%)

How many sex partners have you had?
A) 0 - 3.2%
B) 1–5 - 46.7%
C) 6–10 - 19.8%
D) 11–15 - 11%
E) 16–20 - 6.1%

What is the most sex partners you’ve had in one day?
A) 1 - 69.3%
B) 2 - 24.9%
C) 3 - 4.2%
D) Over 3 - 1.5%

How about in one week?
A) 1 - 47.3%
B) 2 - 35.8%
C) 3 - 12.0%
D) Over 3 - 4.9%

Have you ever had sex with a guy whose name you didn’t know?
A) Yes - 17.3%
B) No - 82.7%

What’s the quickest you’ve slept with a guy after meeting him?
A) Less than one hour - 6.8%
B) 1–5 hours - 25.6%
C) Less than one day - 10.2%
D) 1–5 days - 10.4%
E) 1 week - 8.8%
F) 1 month - 20%
G) Over 1 month - 18.2%

Which of these gifts would you be most excited to receive?
A) Great oral sex - 58.3%
B) Designer high heels - 24.2%
C) A puppy - 17.5%

What percentage of your sexual encounters have occurred while you were drunk or on drugs?
A) 1% - 18.9%
B) 1–10% - 36%
C) 11–25% - 18.2%
D) 26–50% - 13.7%
E) 51–75% - 8.3%
F) 76–99% - 4.0%
G) 100% - 0.8%